2.04.2026

Travelogue Day 1 - In Transit

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"Gina!" I chirped, my voice cutting through the gentle din of Gate 6 at the Madison airport as I tested my hypothesis that the woman who had just entered the gate area with a younger female traveling companion was, in fact, a long time acquaintance and past band mate, one Gina Rehm.

The woman looked up and over at us at the sound of my voice, confirming my surmise, and a look of recognition spread across her face as she took in the visages of Deborah and me.

"Oh, my gosh...HI!" said Gina.

"Wow, you know everyone," said Gina's traveling companion.

"Oh, I know, honey, it's OK," Gina said, patting her companion on the shoulder before heading toward us.

Gina bantered with us a spell. She was also flying to Denver on the same flight as us, en route to Sacramento for the unfortunate funeral of the grandfather of her traveling companion, who turned out to be Gina's niece, who we'll call Samantha for lack of recall of her actual name and perhaps to anonymize the innocent.

It should be noted at this point that I almost never see people I know at the airport, despite Madison Wisconsin being a fairly small city, as city sizes go.

This episode punctuated the initial stages of the tropical adventure for which this travelogue is intended to document AND also set the general tone of laid back ease that I hoped to manifest for the entire week ahead. Prior to the random encounter with Gina our morning had proceeded as most mornings preambling air travel typically do. We woke up earlier than we normally would have on most weekdays (this being a Tuesday), abluted, dressed, and downed whatever sustenance we deemed necessary for burling through the cumbersome American air transportation system.

We were bound for Maui Hawaii, via Denver. Once through the anxiety stage of TSA Security - which was fairly minimal as state-sponsored anxieties go - and immersed in the relative safety of the airport concourse, we relaxed somewhat.

"Can we choose to live in the universe in which everything goes perfectly smoothly on this trip?" I asked Deborah. She nodded her acceptance of the proposal and, mentally, we set about structurally reorienting the Cosmos to our desires. We filled our water bottles and I procured a cup of coffee from the overpriced Ancora coffee shoppe in the airport concourse, slowly sipping it as we awaited our departure.

Both flights were on time and proceeded smoothly and without incident. So anxiety-free was I that I didn't even notice the first flight had landed until the plane's wheels touched down on the tarmac at Denver International. In fact, when it did, I thought initially it was just unexpected turbulence. But there you go!

We had about a two hour layover in Denver before boarding the flight to Kaluhui on Maui in Hawaii. En route from Concourse A (where we landed) to Concourse B (where our second flight would depart from), we passed a smoothie place that we had researched ahead of time and hoped to stumble upon without too much effort, per our earlier intentional prayer to the Cosmos. We procured a couple fruit smoothies and sipped the wholesomeness of them into our bodies at the departure gate.

I'm not gonna lie, the seven hour flight from Denver to Maui was a marathon of patience. I spent the time listening to audio books, reading an actual book, and formulating the initial paragraphs of this post. We were served a vegan meal on this flight, per our request during booking of the United Airlines flights. As modern society has not embraced the awesomeness of veganism yet, it was sparse and average quality fare (but I commend their effort). Anticipating this, however, we had packed some snacks and PB&J sammies in our carry on bags, the latter of which we consumed to supplement our nutritional needs.

The landing in Maui was smooth and upon exiting the plane, Deborah and I changed into climate-appropriate attire (shorts, tee shirts, and sandals) that we had also had the foresight to stash in our carry ons. We scored our suitcases from baggage claim and mosied over to the rental car station to get our transportation for the week, a Chevy something-or-other midsized sedan from Enterprise. On the way out of Kaluhui, we stopped at a Whole Foods grocery store and secured a stash of...well...whole foods. We would be staying in a bungalow at a resort in Lahaina Maui HI (the Royal Lahaina Resort and Bungalows, in fact) about 45 minutes drive from the airport, and said bungalow was (we were told) equipped with a full kitchenette. We planned to make some of our own meals during the vacation week, to ensure vegan fare and also cut costs on dining out (point of fact: bowl of assorted fruit at the resort restaurant = $16!!!). We got some stir fry and salad fixings, as well as some fruit, cereal, and snacks.

On the drive to Lahaina, I was surprised to see that one can see the neighboring islands of Lanai and Moloka'i from Maui. I did not realize they were so close or so visible. And perhaps they aren't that close...but they are mountainous and thus rise well above the horizon established by the curvature of the Earth, appearing - perhaps deceptively - to be nearby.

We found the resort on the west coast of Maui with minimal difficulty and checked in. Our bungalow was some distance from the main entrance to the resort. So we had to park the rental car in the guest parking lot near the entrance and then a bellhop drove us, our bags, and our groceries to our bungalow in a large golf cart. The bellhop pointed out some of the various resort amenities that typical resort guests care about, en route. As atypical guests, we made note of the ice machine and water dispenser, and paid less heed to the bars and live music options. Live music and bars are totally fine and sometimes even good and desirable, but they were not our priorities on this tropical vacation. Our priorities were primarily relaxation, sunshine, and more relaxation, punctuated by some good plant based eats from time to time, and of course HYDRATION. We also prioritized beach walks by the Pacific Ocean (a large body of water that is hard to miss no matter where you are in Hawaii). Beach walks would likely be my main source of exercise on this trip.

Once in our bungalow, we unpacked and put the groceries away. Deborah was pretty pooped from all the day's travel and relaxed on the bed. Marginally more motivated and energized, I set about making a small dinner of sauteed tofu and potatoes, which we ate before retiring for a deep and restful sleep. It was only about 9 pm Hawaii time when we got done with the meal. But that equates to 1 am and FAR PAST OUR BEDTIME in the time zone of Wisconsin, from whence we came.

That being said, I woke up at about 6 am Hawaii time (10 am Wisconsin time) the next morning, feeling very well rejuvenated and (hopefully) jet lag free. The adventures of our first FULL DAY in Hawaii will be recounted in tomorrow's installment of this travelogue.

Stay tuned!

1.21.2026

Boycott Time

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There is an effective solution to all the chaos and toxicity going on in the world right now. It's not an easy solution, but it's very doable if you are passionate, purposeful, and motivated to create change.

It's time for those of us who want the world to be better, more joyous, and positive to BOYCOTT ALL SOCIAL AND MAINSTREAM MEDIA. Just turn it off for a few weeks or months. You can pop in on it from time to time, but don't stay engaged with it in any meaningful or indeterminate way. We now know that ATTENTION is inversely correlated with CREDIBLE INFORMATION. The more attention grabbing social media information is, the less credible it is. Fact.

The reason this kind of mass boycott can work to change the world - if enough people do it - is that in our electronically connected (and often addicted) world, ATTENTION is a valuable commodity. Huge corporate profits are made by keeping YOUR eyeballs on screens. It may not seem like it when you are in it...but consider WHY IS MOST SOCIAL MEDIA FREE? Someone's paying for it. But not you. Because...and this is true...YOU ARE THE PRODUCT BEING BOUGHT AND SOLD (or more precisely your attention is being bought and sold). Advertisers are paying the social media platforms and underwriting their tech because they know that can get your eyeballs locked onto the very screens that bring them profits. They don't actually care about the validity or credibility of the information you are seeing on social media. They just want you to relentlessly consume it.

If 25% of the population suddenly WITHHELD its attention (the profitable commodity we are all the fungible tokens of), these technology corporations would feel the hit financially. They would then complain to their political policy makers and demand changes to end the boycott.

The main obstacle to this solution is ADDICTION. Social media (and to some extent mainstream media) are ridiculously addictive and hard to quit. But people quit addictions all the time...usually because they have a WHY.

If you knew for certain that intentionally boycotting social and mainstream media could affect positive change, would you do it? Well, it can. So do it.

It might be good to have your WHY in mind, and it helps if your WHY is shared with a lot of other people. My WHY is to keep toxic grievance and vitriol out of my life and since I have eliminated social and mainstream media from my life, 99.9% of all that negativity is OUT OF MY LIFE. I am not going to consume social and mainstream media until those media do a better job at detoxifying themselves.

I encourage you to go 100% media free for a minimum of two weeks and ideally one month. You'll be shocked and pleasantly surprised how much more positive, happy, and smart you become when the "fake news" is out of your life.

The End.

12.26.2025

The Final Countdown

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We are in the final week of 2025. Amazing! How cool is it that we survived a whole 'nother year? Well, I think it's very cool, and if you don't...well, you know what to do [first word rhymes with duck and second word rhymes with cough). Because...PUNK ROCK!

OK, so, let's get into it. Life is good. I attribute that to adhering to a vegan diet and exercising just about every day this past year. I've also minimized the presence of negativity and drama in my life, mainly by abstaining from social and mainstream media (SMSM), the source of 95% of the world's toxicity. I highly encourage everyone to give up SMSM for a week or two and see how beneficial and positive it is. You might never go back. But...of course you can't do that! You're addicted to SMSM (as most people are, so you are not alone). If you doubt that, try giving up SMSM for a week or two. Or even a day. See what I mean? That anxiety you feel about quitting SMSM...that ADDICTION! The exact same anxious feeling drug addicts feel when faced with giving up their addictions.

Well, I can lead a horse to water, but my responsibility ends there. So, do whatever you want!

The past year has been pretty good. My successful private practice in marriage and family therapy had its best year yet, I think, in terms of number of people helped with their mental health and relationships AND the business's bottom line (these two things are, of course, highly correlated). We went to Australia early in the year and that triggered the process of Deborah applying for her Australian Partner Visa (the partner, of course, being ME...a dual US/AUS citizen). We got that application finalized and submitted last week, right before the holidays. There are a few minor steps to work through yet, but most of the tough work is done.

I'm not going to lie...I like Motorhead. They are a kickass band and the music is deliciously raw rock-n-roll. I bring that up, seemingly randomly, because I have Pandora on right now and a Motorhead song just came on (the Pandora station is actually Iggy Pop Radio, though). This music is inspiring me to go down into the Rock Cave and practice some music today. I have the day off and the list of chores I need to get through is not exhaustive, so I should have time.

Speaking of time...it's time for me to sign off, so I can go and take care of said chores and rocking.

Take care.

The End.